Relationships are everything at work and in business (and of course, in life). Getting along with others is the best thing you can do for your career.
Because it’s even more memorable than doing great work. People will remember that you were a good person to work with with more than they will remember all the new business you brought in.
Many people love managing a team. I was one of those. It always felt like both an (earned) responsibility and an honor to lead and develop others. To me, it was a creative exercise to be given a big job and figure out how to break it up and assign smaller pieces thoughtfully. Most importantly, to help others foster a sense of development, challenge and joy - yes, joy - in the process. Some people naturally crave this type of role, and for others it just lands in their lap without much notice or training.
However you find yourself managing others, any notion that managing is easier than “just doing it yourself” is quickly dispelled. It takes one day on the job to realize that there is way more involved in managing instead of simply doing, and there is also a lot more at stake.
You’ve probably heard some version of the old adage “love yourself before you can love someone else”. Or perhaps, “keep your tank full” so you can give to others. The cliches are true: how we treat ourselves directly affects how we treat others.
When it comes to being your best at work, it’s more than just nailing a project or wowing the client. It’s about how you show up, and that requires some level of self-care.
Nine months into being a new mom and I’m getting to see things through the eyes of a newcomer to this world. From her point of view, everything is little, everyone is new and anything is possible. As she tries to stand up, if she stretches her arm just a bit more, she will have a sturdy place to hold on. If she steps a little farther, she will be well balanced. It won’t take much, but for her it’s the difference between standing and falling.
Taking little steps and making small adjustments is how you learn and grow and evolve.
An old adage tells us that “if you wait to drink when you’re thirsty, you’re already dehydrated.” Modern wisdom, and biology, challenges this by saying that thirst is the body’s way of telling us we need water, so it’s in fact ok to wait until you reach the point of thirst.
But why wait until the need is so great? What might you miss out on by not proactively nourishing your body (and mind) with what you know it needs?
Why wait to have the conversations you know you need to have?
In a pretty complex world, we’re often looking to simplify in small ways: organize the apps on our phone, consolidate our accounts, or pick up the phone instead of sending a long email.
To focus on the small stuff is to simplify everyday behaviors that can over-complicate life. Everything can be broken down to a smaller form, and the small stuff is much easier to tackle than the big stuff.
Think about the last time you made a big plan in your personal or professional life. Perhaps it was a new year’s resolution, a 3-year strategic plan or a big trip.